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Pop Goes the Wedding

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‘Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.’  ~ Ecclesiastes 4:11, 12


We returned this evening from what can best be described as the most interesting non-religious, religious wedding I have ever attended.  The entire outdoor ceremony lasted a mere 17 minutes from the appearance of the first groomsman and bridesmaid until the last of the recessional.  To be sure, I prefer short/ Protestant weddings as a rule (ours clocked in at just under 20 minutes) but the issue was of special import this evening as the event was held outdoors under the constant threat of rain.  (We remained dry during the nuptuals but ran for cover to the reception as the skies opened after the I Do’s.)

The first indication that the ceremony would be, shall we say, ‘different’ was atop the programme handed out as we took our seats.  The processional of the wedding party would take place to the soothing sounds of a Norah Jones song (played by the celloist who performed at our wedding, as it happened).  Points were awarded, however, for keeping with tradition (or is it a law now?) and playing Pachelbel’s Canon in D at one point (we did it, too!).  The next bit of ‘unorthodoxy’ took place during the ceremony itself.  The extremely young looking pastor (of an unknown denomination) spent no time speaking of the Gospel and barely more than nothing in reading from Scripture.  His performance included two fleeting references to Solomon and Paul of Tarsus but was chock full of pop culture with a quote from Homer Simpson (on marriage) and no fewer than three songs: ‘All Out of Love‘ by Air Supply, ‘Cherish‘ by Kool and the Gang, and–I kid you not–an Adam Sandler ditty featured (alongside Billy Idol) in ‘The Wedding Singer.’  The specific verse from the last song quoted went thus:

So let me do the dishes in our kitchen sink
Put you to bed if you’ve had too much to drink
I could be the man who grows old with you
I wanna grow old with you

The ceremony spent a great deal of time centered around ‘Love.’  While, obviously, love is a very important ingredient in a marriage and I am a staunch advocate of it, yet it is not the glue that holds a couple together (that would be God) nor is it the end-all-be-all of marriage.  In fact, the manner in which the pastor spoke of it, he would have been better served substituting the term ‘infatuation.’

The pastor ended with a prayer that, in its hyper-ecumenical nature, left me asking the Mrs., ‘Who–or what–did we just pray too?’  In the end, it seemed a waste of time and money to have such an elaborate ceremony that was only nominally religious at all.  One would think that they may have been better served having a Justice of the Peace marry them and spend the balance of the funds on a honeymoon in Australia.

Am I a stick in the mud?  Perhaps.  (Probably.)  But I feel deeply that a wedding is a religious ceremony and a marriage is an institution ordained by God that calls for a great deal of reverence and serious reflection.  In addition, it also seems a shame to me that one would not use the opportunity of having a captive audience to share the Gospel, which is central to our lives (including the marriage).

Oh, yeah.  The recessional?: ‘All You Need Is Love‘ by the Beatles.


Written by ninepoundhammer

July 18, 2008 at 9:12 pm

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  1. “In addition, it also seems a shame to me that one would not use the opportunity of having a captive audience to share the Gospel, which is central to our lives (including the marriage).”

    That statement assumes the person marrying the individuals is an evangelical Christian like you or I might be; or should be…which you already suggested he was not! Anyhow, I think this is funny because one time my dad was asked to do a wedding by some old family friends’ kid and they asked my dad if he could just talk without using the word “Jesus” because there were some people coming that were not Christians and it might not be politically correct or comfortable for them to have that spoken about. Luckily my dad did not oblige.


    July 18, 2008 at 11:10 pm

  2. Not being able to discern whether the pastor was an evangelical Christian–or a Christian at all–was really the point. A wedding is (or should be) a religious affair but one could not really get that from the one we attended yesterday (even with an ordained minister officiating).


    July 19, 2008 at 6:52 am

  3. I LOVE the Wedding Singer, in fact it plays a small part in the relationship forming for Michael and I. But I couldn’t help but chuckle that the song was actually used as a reference for the minister. We attended a friend’s wedding similar to this. The minister said “God” a few times and did pray, but we were left confused and wondering what had happened.


    July 19, 2008 at 9:17 pm

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